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Today's Column: Problems with the same and opposite sex.

 

Dear Chloe,

I was waiting in a queue for a night club then saw this guy whom I had the biggest crush on at school. I noticed him coz he was looking at me, I looked away and looked back and he was still looking. Does this mean he likes me? Even my mate said that lad's looking over here. Come on lads, what do you think?

Sincerely,

Girl on Line

 

Dear Girl,

He probably thinks you're a fox. Or, it's possible you looked familiar to him and he couldn't remember where he'd seen you.

But I'm interested in what happened after you got into the club. Did he approach you? Did he ask you to dance? Did you ask him?

Cause if nothing happened, what difference does it make whether I think he likes you or not?

 

Dear Chloe,

Chloe, ok, I have a boyfriend and I haven't been wanting to see him. We've been going out for one year and I'm kinda ready to call it quits. I've been seeing this guy I met at the mall, he seems really nice, but he has a girlfriend, and I didn't find out til I saw them kissing at a club. His friend told me in front of him that he's been looking for a girl like me. After I went out on a date with him, he kissed me. And there's lots of girls that go up to him and hug him, but he doesn't seem interested. He seems more interested in me. Lately I've been talking to some guys and for me it's kinda odd. I also met this other guy that works where I'm supposed to get a job. He's really cute and really nice, he gave me his digits. And I don't know what to do. Can you perhaps help me out? Thank you!

Sincerely,

Dazed 'n Confused

 

Dear D,

Cut your boyfriend loose, toots. You're not doing him any favors by stringing him along. Especially since you apparently have moved on already, what with all the extracurricular activities and all. He'll get over it.

Likewise, cut off the guy with the girlfriend. When you date someone who cheats (and let's pretend you're not cheating on your boyfriend) you're implicitly giving him permission to cheat on YOU. If he's more interested in you, he'll dump his current girlfriend anyway. But I wouldn't expect this guy to be faithful for very long.

I'm not crazy about dating people I work with, but I don't see a problem with calling the guy who gave you his number. And there's no reason why you have to pick one guy to date exclusively. I'd date them all, keep things light and breezy, until I found someone I really really liked.

 

Dear Chloe,

I really like this guy and he's also my best friend. I've known him since the second grade and I did have a little crush on him, I still like him, it was kind of an off-and-on thing thru middle and high school. I never had the guts to tell him that I liked him and right now he's having issues with his ex, so he calls me up every day and tells me about it. Me being his best friend, I tell him that he'll find the right girl, I wish it were me! Sometimes I get mixed signals from him or signs that are related to him especially when I'm trying to get over him and move on. But every time I see his cute face, all these feelings that I have for him start up again. Please help me, what should I do?

Sincerely,

LonelyGurl

 

Dear Lonely,

What is with all you girls crushing on guys for years, yet never having the guts to say anything?

You have to make a decision. Possibly risk this friendship by telling him how you feel, torture yourself with the status quo, or distance yourself altogether. It is impossible to get over someone you see on a regular basis, unless you make a tremendous effort to meet new people and immerse yourself in new experiences. And sometimes, not even then.

I think you should talk to him. People who are friends first have the best chances for a successful relationship. It makes sense. You already know the good and have accepted the bad. Just remember that we're more likely to regret what we haven't done.

 

Dear Chloe,

I happen to really like a girl who goes to my school. She is the sensitive type who is mostly quiet and she seems kind of shy. We know each other, but we aren't good friends or anything. According to her friends, she has never had a boyfriend or gone on a date...neither have I, so I have no idea as to how to approach this situation. I keep bugging her friends for info on her and they are starting to suspect that I like her. I don't want her to find out from them, but I am afraid that if I tell her now, she will hate me. I want to wait until we are better friends, then I plan to ask her to the homecoming dance. I am not sure if she likes me, but whenever I see her in the halls she smiles at me. Is she just being polite? Should I tell her how I feel or should I wait? I think I have to wait if I want an honest answer, but then, someone elso might ask her first. Ahh! Help!

Sincerely,

Robbie

 

Dear Robbie,

She is not going to hate you if you tell her how you feel. Where did that idea come from? Liking someone is a major compliment. Besides, she's already smiling at you anyway.

I guess you could wait to ask her out, if that makes you feel more comfortable. But you already know that you like her, so why put it off any longer? What would Greg Brady do? He'd go for it now, and so should you.

 

Dear Chloe,

I recently got my first kiss. It wasn't from someone that I liked or was even good friends with. It was from Donny, one of the many homosexuals that attend my junior high. I was really scared because he just pulled me aside and laid one on me. Then he told me he really liked me and that he was sorry about the kiss because he knows that I am not gay. At least, I think I am not. I actually kind of liked the kiss and I can't stop thinking about Donny. Now that I have been thinking about my sexuality I realize that I have never liked a girl before. I mean, I have never liked guys, but that may be because I thought it was wrong. Does this mean I am gay? I am worried what my friends will think if I "come out" to everyone. What will my parents think? But then, it doesn't matter because I really like Donny now. I haven't told him about what I have been thinking because I don't want him to get the wrong idea. Please help if you can. Thanx.

Sincerely,

William

 

Dear William,

Dude, put a lid on the "coming out" nonsense. If your first kiss came from a girl, you'd be liking her, too. I'm guessing puberty has just reared its ugly head, and right now hormones are racing madly through your bod, making you crazy. The power of hormones should not be underestimated; nature has given them a lot of responsibility.

A little experimentation does not make you a homosexual. And it doesn't mean anything that you haven't liked any girls yet. The vast majority of gays are wired that way, and they know it at a very young age. But I am sure that environment plays a part in some cases. I would be very interested to know how many gay people had a same-sex encounter as their first sexual experience.

So before you convince yourself you're gay, why don't you try kissing a couple of girls? I'd at least wait on coming out until high school. I mean, you're not even shaving, for crying out loud.

Hugs and kisses,

 


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