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Today's Column: Problems with the opposite sex, part VIII.

 

Dear Chloe,

Okay, I'm a pretty shy kind of person. So, I'm not that popular. This guy I like is pretty popular, but for some odd reason, I think that he likes me. He is in my English class, and one day we had to get into groups of two. He was like, hey, wanna be my partner. I was so surprised, I hesitated for a moment, and then said yeah. I like him a lot. What do I do? I don't know him that well, and I blush really easily, so I can't flirt. Uggggg!

Sincerely,

Mkhdr05

 

Dear Mk,

I know where you're coming from, because I'm pretty shy myself and my flirting skills aren't too impressive. Plus I've also got that "furious blushing" gene. But that's no excuse to take yourself out of the game. I mean, this situation is so "Sixteen Candles!"

Flirting isn't that big a deal. This guy has already made the first move, so I encourage you to challenge yourself and do something that might make you a little uncomfortable. Like next time, ask him if he wants to be your partner in class. Make it a habit to say hi and try to work up a conversation. Don't think of him as your "crush" but as a guy in your class. He should be meeting you halfway, though - don't make it too easy (or too hard) for him to get to know you.

The way I deal with my blushing is to ignore it. It usually only lasts for a few seconds, anyway. Personally, I love to see guys blush - that little touch of vulnerability is so appealing. And I can appreciate and respect someone who does something that he (or she) knows will make him blush. I mean, that's kinda righteous, when you think about it.

So my advice is, take a chance, ignore your red cheeks and good luck!

 

Dear Chloe,

I like this boy in my class but I don't know if he likes me and I never spoke to him...

He is in my lessons, everytime I pass him he looks up at me, before he never sat behind me in my IT lesson but now he sits behind me in my IT lesson. When I was in the chill out room he kind of sat next to me but his body was facing me and was staring into space. Sometimes I catch him looking at me and once we made eye contact....

I would appreciate it if you can tell me if he likes me....Thanks!

Sincerely,

Nina

 

Dear Nina,

It seems he's interested but he's probably wondering what I'm wondering: why are you making it so hard for him? Why don't you say hi to him, strike up a conversation about your class together, for starters? Your non-action is a signal, too, that you're not interested.

 

Dear Chloe,

I have been friends with this one guy for two years now. We have been best friends, but I've always had a thing for him. Everyone that I know tells me that we would make a cute couple and that we should go out. But every time someone asks him "Why don't you two go out?" he always answers with a joke or he doesn't even answer. I've always wondered if he likes me because the way he acts around me sometimes is strange. I asked him after we had known each other for about a year if he likes me and he didn't answer me at all. He'll flirt with me, touch me on the arm or leg, hug me and he even gave me a kiss. But then he'll act like he doesn't even want to be around me and hang out with other girls. I know his personality is kind of flirty so I don't know if he's just being normal or if he's trying to get me to go out with him.

Sincerely,

SilentJen

 

Dear Sil,

This is a tough one. The thing is, he's had enough opportunity to let you know whether he feels anything more, but he hasn't said anything. He might be afraid of ruining the friendship, or you may be in his "Buddy Zone."

Instead of putting him on the spot and asking him if he likes you, you could tell him how you feel. If he doesn't respond after that, I'd drop the subject for good. He sounds like he's happy with the status quo, though, so be warned.

 

Dear Chloe,

There is this guy I liked for five months now and I used to have French with him and he kind of stuck his tongue out and moved it around at me. Also, when I see him in the hall, he sometimes smiles at me, but sometimes he doesn't even look at me. I'm trying to figure out if he likes me or not. I need help!!! He is so cute.

Sincerely,

sweetjjcutie

 

Dear Swee,

The evidence is pretty shaky. A lot of girls tell me their crush runs hot and cold. I can't stand that - when people do that to me, I shower them with indifference. I really can't be bothered second-guessing someone's feelings towards me, guy or girl.

I say this every column - if neither of you are going to make a move, it doesn't matter whether he likes you or not. Instead of wondering whether he's ignoring you in the halls, why don't you say hi to him next time?

 

Dear Chloe,

I like this guy in my class but everyone says he likes another girl. Do you think I should forget him?

Sincerely,

Wanlin

 

Dear Wan,

Probably.

You could try talking to him in class, but it's not a secret he likes someone else, so don't expect too much. But give it a shot - you've got nothing to lose.

Hugs and kisses,

 


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