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This Column: Going for your dreams and flaky girls.


Dear Chloe,

I've been playin baseball for awhile, everyone keeps tellin me I'm very good. And that I can go far if I keep my head on straight and go for my dreams. My dream forever has been to play in the majors..although I'm only 15, I have conquered a lot of things, not only with baseball, but with life itself. I've been through hell and back with divorces and stuff. Even though I'm only 15 I've experienced more then other kids my age, and I'm wondering if something good is gonna happen to me, whether to deal with baseball or not?




Dear JR,

Dude, I'm not going to be the one to tell you not to go for your dreams. And I'm assuming that the people who are encouraging you are your teammates and your coach. Now I don't know much about baseball but that seems like a good sign.

So yeah, if you love playing ball, keep at it, of course I'm going to say that. Keep your head on straight like they said, list some goals and work toward those goals and something good will happen for you. Because you will have made something good happen for yourself.

Really, the major difference between someone who is successful and someone who isn't is hard work. I don't think the general population realizes just how much effort truly successful people have expended to get where they are. I would also suggest you develop some interests outside of baseball, something else you can pursue in school. A back-up plan won't hurt if you never need it, but it will save you if you do.

Good luck, Tiger! I have a good feeling about you.

 Bonus question!

Dear Chloe,

I'm going out with this girl. We have been together for only 2 days. When I'm with her she's shy, but very nice. But when I'm away, she tries to get me jealous, by going over her friend's house where there are a lot of guys. Does she like me or what's up?




Dear JR,

What? You again? ;)

Dude, two days, dude? Does she know that you two are dating? The shy part, that could be a good sign, a lot of people are shy around people they like. That whole feeling vulnerable thing and all. And I don't know if she's trying to make you jealous, I don't know anything about the guys she's hanging out with. Maybe they're just guy-friends, not potential boyfriends? It's hard to say because I don't know her. If she is trying to make you jealous, JR, what do you need that for? Move on, dude. That's a sure sign of insecurity or immaturity and if she's pulling stuff like this now, I don't even want to think about the hijinks that are in store when you two are more solid. But I'm not saying that's what she's doing. I'm just saying that's what it could be.

But try to control your jealousy with her, dude, it's too early. Instant turn off for her and it will kill your potential relationship for sure. I mean, I know jealousy is a normal feeling but it's dangerous and definitely don't get in her face about hanging out with other guys (which doesn't seem like you are.)

Does she like you? JR, I don't know. You can answer this yourself. You ask her out and she accepts. Does she blow you off to hang out with these other guys? Or does she blow them off to hang with you? Does she smile when she sees you? Does she want to talk to you? Ultimately, it's her behavior. Everything else is useless speculation. That's how you'll know how she feels about you. You're past the hard part -- you've already spoken to each other. A lot of people never get to that point. And remember, dude, there's no law that says you can't hang out with other chicas, yourself. Don't play games with her, but JR, you're 15. Even if you're not interested romantically in other girls, it's cool to hang out with them. It makes you a more interesting person. It'll make you more interesting to her.

And JR, hang on to your sense of humor! That's real important, too. Take care, and let me know what happens!

Hugs and kisses,


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