Chloe's so sorry she's waaay behind with her column. Unfortunately, she gets too many questions to answer each one. Chances are someone has already asked the same or a similar question, so check the archives or "How to Tell if Someone Likes You."

Today's Column: Boys asking about girls and...vice versa!


Dear Chloe,

Okay, there's this guy that I work with that I am starting to get this huge crush on. I've thought he was cute for a long time but I never really "liked" him. I've known him since like 7th grade and now we are in 11th. We have always been friends but not really close. Since he started working where I work, we have gotten A LOT closer. Like every time he walks by me, he has to touch me and he always gets happy when I visit him or when I work with him. Are these signs that he likes me or not??? If they are should I tell him how I feel or should I just stay friends with him.




Dear Gig,

It sounds like he digs you. But you have to decide for yourself whether you should share your feelings or just stay friends.

Just be prepared that if you don't make a move, he might not either. And then you'll always be wondering, "What if?" There are a lot of people who never take action and regret it, including me. I think you should go for it.


Dear Chloe,

I've liked this guy for a while now. We don't see each other very much, but when we do see each other he stares at me a lot. He talks to all of my friends, but he never talks to me. Just recently he talked to me twice and he was really playful with me and all my friends say he was flirting with me. But he was being playful. Was he still flirting with me? One day he'll like totally ignore me and not even look at me and the next day he'll stare at me all the time. Do you think he may possibly like me or think I'm cute, or is he staring at me cuz he thinks I'm a freak?





Dear Sn,

Being playful qualifies as flirting. I doubt he's checking you out because you're a freak. Why would you even think that? Why would he waste so much time staring at you if he didn't like you? It doesn't make sense, unless he's a psycho.

He ignores you sometimes, probably because he's shy with you and he feels vulnerable. There's a possibility of rejection, if you don't like him. Are you going to tell me you've never done that to someone you had a crush on? I know I have.

Now I don't know what is with guys today, but too many of them are afraid to make a move. So if you're content with the status quo, do nothing. But you might have to ask him out if you're ever going to get this party started.


Dear Chloe,

So I have liked this guy for a few weeks and we are really close but I don't know if my body language reading skills are off. Okay, I will give you some things, and you tell me what you think! A few weeks ago we were at a party and we stepped outside. I was wearing a big fleece sweater and nice fleece lined gloves, he was wearing a thin long sleeve shirt. Out of nowhere, he offers his jacket to me -- I was like, what is going on? There's more. We make eye contact and make long gazes into each other's eyes. I am screaming I really like you and I find comfort in his eyes. We also get really close to each other when we talk. We often talk and he suggests we shoud hang out after he graduates. There are so many things, and maybe I am just reading into things, I don't know. I am no stranger to dating but this time it feels different but I really feel like I have no clue as to what to do!!! I think when you find someone right for you that is what happens -- maybe I am over analyzing...I don't know!




Dear jay,

Signs are good...when he offered his jacket, he was just showing you that he wants to take care of you. I think it's sweet, if corny.

When he suggests that you two hang out after he graduates, follow up on his offer. Make it a definite plan.


Dear Chloe,

There's this girl I'm talking to, she likes to talk to me and I feel that she can relate to me a lot more than the guy she "likes", see, he is sort of a shallow guy, and I feel it will not work between them, but of course I don't tell her that. I like her, I think I do, she calls me at least 3 times a week and almost every day. But she calls him too, she talks to me for a longer amount of time than he does, because simply I know how to talk. But this confuses me, she gives me letters and pictures, yet she likes that other guy. I thought of some of my options like, maybe not talk to her any more because it hurts me, but...that would be selfish, I should be there for her, but...I don't know.. I don't know what to do, if only she can assure me by promising me; then I would feel relieved, but how do I get rid of this pain, how do I get rid of this situation?




Dear tenken,

She is being selfish, not you.

I'm not sure what her motives are, if she's playing you two off each other or what, or if she just sees you as a friend. I would tell her that you can't talk to her any more because you have feelings for her and it's too painful for you to listen to her talk about this other guy. And if I were dating someone who was spending that much time talking to another girl, especially if she liked him, I'd have a problem with that.


Dear Chloe,

My boyfriend just broke up with me because my friend (or so I think he's my friend) who likes me a lot told my boyfriend that I'm not his type, or I'm too ditzy and blonde for him...I really want my boyfriend back and I don't know what to do...PLEASE help me, thank you soo much!!!




Dear Trapped,

Why do I feel like there is something you're not telling me?

First of all, obviously this friend of yours tried and succeeded in sabotaging your relationship. This wouldn't have happened if your boyfriend could think for himself. Why he didn't just tell your "friend" to go suck an egg is beyond me. It just doesn't make sense for him to break up with you over that...unless there is something else that happened. Does he think you cheated on him, for example, or that you like this other guy? The only thing you can do is talk to your boyfriend and explain that you still want to be with him.

Hugs and kisses,


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