Chloe's so sorry she's waaay behind with her column. Unfortunately, she gets too many questions to answer each one. Chances are someone has already asked the same or a similar question, so check the archives or "How to Tell if Someone Likes You."

Today's Column: Online relationships, when your best friend likes your crush, choosing between two girls, crushing on your housemate.


Dear Chloe,

I met this guy and we became really good friends. Then I started to really care about him and like him a lot. I slowed myself down and took it slow. Then he called me one day and told me that he loves me. I was like whoa...I didn't see that coming. So I thought, wow, he really does care about me. Lately he has been acting very differently. He tells me that I ask too many questions and that I am too worried about the relationship that we have. He and I have never met because we met online. We are supposed to be meeting this upcoming weekend. See...he has been soo nice and sweet to me ever since we met and was totally different. He was making it seem like I don't care about him and that I only think about my feelings and not his. It seems to me that for some reason he is trying to make me mad at him so he can get out of coming here. Do you think he likes me..or am I wasting my time?




Dear lizzie,

An online relationship isn't a relationship at all. It's a fantasy. It is so easy to be nice to someone you don't have to deal with in the flesh. You never do anything together but talk from a distance. You're cheating yourself from having a real boyfriend.

You probably nailed it -- he's had second thoughts about meeting and now he's being an asshole so you call it off. Which sounds like a great idea to me. Cut this loser off.

I'd be a lot more careful about becoming so emotionally involved in a chat partner. It's one thing if you guys are going to meet for sure, but if you're just going trade emails, don't let yourself get sucked into believing it's anything more than that.


Dear Chloe,

I want to know if this guy that likes me is going to ask me out this week.


Lame Duck


Dear Lame,

Oh, you must have me confused with the Magic Eight Ball.


Dear Chloe,

I've got a big problem. There's this girl I work with that I've got the biggest crush on. However, there's another girl that's got the hots for me. I'm stuck because I really want to find out if the girl I work with likes me or not. We constantly talk on the phone and are really good friends. The only problem is the fact that she doesn't date and I don't want to lose her as a friend. How do I tell her? Also, what should I do about the one that has a thing for me? I mean I want to find out if the one I like likes me before I tell her anything. What should I do?




Dear Matt,

What is with the not dating business? I'd kinda try to get that straightened out first. Is she not dating because she just ended a relationship, or she's busy and she doesn't want to get involved? Is it because nobody asked her out yet? Or did she just give you that excuse to cut you off at the pass? Find the answer to that and you'll know if you should proceed.

Find out what's going on with the first girl before you start messing around with the second. I don't think it's fair to pursue her now since you're crushing on someone else. I can't condone taking advantage of someone's feelings if you know it's not going to go anywhere. What goes around comes around.


Dear Chloe,

My best friend, she has a crush on the same guy that I do, and we both know that we both have crushes on him. But, next year, when we get in middle school, what if he asks one of us out? The other one would DEFINITELY get mad, and jealous, of course. I know I would, and she would too, I know her really well. She would. Can you give me some advice?




Dear Jealous,

Let's see, you're willing to risk losing your best friend over some guy? How long does a relationship in middle school last, anyway? Two weeks, tops.

Throughout your life you will have to choose between men and your friends. Many friendships have been lost that way.


Dear Chloe,

I have a massive crush on my housemate and I'm not sure what to do about it. Whenever we are all talking, I sense him looking at me, but when I look at him, he immediately looks away. I have picked up on a couple of signals, and it's driving me crazy because I like him so much. I just don't want to make a fool of myself if I am mis-reading the situation. I would like him to make the move, but he is quite shy. Please Help?




Dear Melanie,

Normally I would say something like, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained," and that sometimes with shy guys making the first move falls on our shoulders.

But the fact that he's your housemate complicates things greatly.

It's usually not such a great idea to become involved with someone you live with already. What if things don't work out the way you want them to? One of you is going to have to find a new place.

Hugs and kisses,


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